After sadly experiencing similar personal issues, I just happened to stumble upon this page from Asylum that assures me that the average recovery time is within the two-three months range. Well, thanks guys, that helps quite a bit, but I would like to go a little further than what social scientists have discovered while working so hard in the benefit of the humanity itself and lay down some of the things I discovered whilst being a fan of social interaction in general and relationship screw-ups in particular. Here it goes, breaking up the break-ups:
A lifetime of misery, the worse case scenario
I would say from personal experience as well as from hyper-analyzing people’s misery that the average time of getting over the break up with the person you thought was the love of your life is half of the duration of the relationship. But in this particular case we are facing the person that will never try and get over it. We’re facing a socially unadjusted individual that just won’t move on. These can be found on forums that supposedly teach you how to get him/her back, they can be found resorting to psychics, calling the suicide hot-line in need of some attention, turning religious or even hurting themselves. Usually they are needy and emotional characters which is likely the reason they got dumped for in the first place. Needless to say, there’s nothing we, normal people, can do in respect of helping them so they will go on making the choice of living a lifetime of regrets, misery, obsession and socially unfit behaviors.
It hurts a bit but I’ll survive
If a person in this unfortunate situation feels that way about it, then their chances of joining the rest of the humanity in their quest to the perfect partner in about a couple months. However, there are factors which can significantly decrease the “waiting time”. Having a positive attitude, going out, doing forbidden things, focusing on work more, rewarding yourself in different ways always help. Also, not to be sexist or anything, but how many socially healthy guys can’t go right back on the dating scene and meet some hot stuff to heal their souls? I will come up with a post soon, that will be quasi-ironic like this one about 5 easy ways of getting over some chick that just dumped you.
None of the above are valid if you’re Anna Murdoch and you walked away 1.7 billion richer. In fact anything above 1 million as a compensation for your loss will do. Now go outside and play.
wELL i AM SITTING HERE WITH pHIL AND HE SAYS YES IT TAKE A WHILE AND i SAY WHATS THE LONGEST ITS TAKENYOU TO GET OVER A GIRL AND HE SAYS 1 WEEK, WHAT!!!! WHATS THE SHORTEST TIME …I DON’T KNOW A NOT AT ALL I DON’T SEEM TO HAVE A PROBLEM GETTING OVER THEM AT ALL…YOOU KNOW THAT THERE IS A BAR WITH PLENTY OF HORNY BITCHES JUST AROUND THE CORNER.
I know personally for me I still hold strong affection for all my exes. After a 3 year relationship it took me about 6 months to start going out again and feeling normal. About 2 years after the relationship I was ready for another and have been very happy since now about 6 year after the break up and 4 years into a new one.
Oh wow, all this time I wondered if Melissa is Phil. It’s all so clear now to me and it makes me happy that I know, thus reducing my recovery time with perhaps another 2-3 days or so.
Myself the one true love it took a long long time to “get over” but, I “moved on” weeks later, lol. Male genes I guess.
Love the heart in the trashcan icon Ted, speaks volumes.
Breaking up in a relation is the funniest and painful thing if you put feelings in it. If not… you wasted your time and the end will be boring and pain free. ^_^
NOT THE SAME PERSON although born on the same day and I think phil enjoys dressing like a women!!!
Good luck with your recovery time.
Well i guess if it was just “some chick”, then you shouldnt have a hard time getting over it. The easiest thing to do would be to find someone else at the end of your shitty worthless, pointless no good relationship. As you said it takes your mind off the girl that just dumped you.
My last relationship was not anything close to shitty, worthless, pointless or no good. I was just talking as a general point over this. As a matter of fact, my past relationship is something I don’t really wanna take my mind off right now. And no, she wasn’t just “some chick”, she was completely awesome and I miss her.
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I just wanted to clear something up. I don’t really enjoy dressing like a woman. I mean there was that on summer when I worked on a hippie farm near San Francisco and me and my hedero buddy steve would wear dresses to blow the students minds. But I hardly think that makes me a cross dresser.
On another note…Kelsey, you doing alright? you sound a little bent out of shape. You sound like someone who has been burned before…recently…
Not to judge.
Cheers!